The complexity of male emotions seen in physical dolls
In the forum, it can be found that some people are taking carefully crafted photos. The dolls in the photos are sweeping the kitchen floor in t-shirts and pants, skiing in sportswear, lying by the pool in swimsuits, or playing in the flowers. Telling stories about passion and happiness, often highlighting their own inner selves.Experts believe that fantasy can serve deep-seated psychological purposes. Psychologists describe them as "tools for our brain to counteract the chilling effects of guilt, worry, shame, rejection, and helplessness, and make them safe enough to experience happiness.". In the book "Male Sexual Behavior: Why Women Don't Understand - Men Don't Understand", it is written that desire is often defined as an unconscious attempt to solve feelings of loneliness and exclusion. Many men's fantasies about women seem to primarily serve men and derive immense pleasure from this effort. These fantasies attract men's attention not because they promote misogyny, but because they allow men to refute common beliefs, such as women not liking to please men and easily feeling disappointed or hurt because men pursue their interests.
The relationship between male desires and their preferences may not be suitable for a superficial explanation. Sometimes, men who feel guilty towards women may explain this dilemma by objectifying women and separating desire from intimacy. In clinical practice, men who have experienced such setbacks often attempt to merge desire and intimacy back together. In other words, what they crave is not just a simple and lifeless body, that pure pleasure idea is wrong.
There is a desire for ideals, as well as a right to ideals. When we see those hanging dolls, it's easy to think of the latter. At present, the physical doll market has emerged with a sexual revolution in which women demand new freedom in their lives. Women can choose to pursue and refuse contact, although the degree is still limited. In the history of adult toys, it is written that physical dolls are promoted as "comfort for all lonely men living without a partner.".
Decades later, women's autonomy remains a controversial topic, as clearly demonstrated by the MeToo movement and intense debates surrounding autonomy. In extreme cases, online groups that dislike women accuse the women's liberation movement of depriving men of their rights. In foreign countries, there is an online group that calls itself "involuntary singles", abbreviated as "inches"; Voluntarily single individuals, known as "volcels" or "MGTOW" or "Men Going Their Own Way," are determined to distance themselves from women because they believe they are corrupt and morally corrupt.
It is easy to find similar gender discriminatory attitudes on doll forums. A commentator wrote about how he dressed the doll up as an ex girlfriend, "Although she was great in many ways, she also hurt and deceived me, making me think about suicide." There were many descriptions of the ex, such as "crazy" and "bad", and they wouldn't let these bad things happen to the doll.
New York sex therapist Stephen observed that in couples, it is usually males who, contrary to common expectations, lose their desires or, in his words, "disappear.". Stephen is the author of the book "Love is Worth Creating: How to Have a Wonderful Experience in a Long Term Relationship". He often asks these clients whether they please their partners for the sake of their significant other or for their own happiness. His client replied, "Of course it's for the other half. Isn't that what I should do?"
Stephen suspects that one factor leading to the disappearance of these men is that "gender roles are changing and men are unsure who they should be with.". Men receiving treatment often struggle with a selfless behavior that weakens their pursuit. He said that sometimes, men who grew up with a domineering father would overcompensate, and in the process, they would become detached from their own needs. For these people, the trick is to find the right balance between passion and understanding - self and others.
Now dolls have evolved into AI models, which allow users to have basic conversations with intelligent and automatically set dolls on the screen. Smart physical dolls are essentially traditional physical dolls equipped with certain movable parts, similar to egg shaped virtual pets in the 1990s. If you are unable to interact with it, its social indicators will decrease. Similarly, if you praise it and express emotions, such as mentioning that you like "her", "love" will rise.
This design choice is a moral choice that teaches people to become better people. Among them, there is a hint of personal pain: "I have my own life and my own emotional entanglements." When you first meet someone, they are one thing, but once you get to know them for a while, they become another thing. But with physical dolls, you can be yourself and see how it works. Establishing a relationship with physical dolls creates a "safe zone".
Focusing on relationships is the result of understanding from the customer base of dolls: they crave a "connection" about our spiritual and emotional interactions with each other, leading to desires that go deeper than physical behavior itself. At this point, we can feel a simple conclusion: for physical dolls, for men.
--Reprinted from the public account: Entity doll combat experience